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This meme format is sexist. Why is it always always always the woman who has the negative side?
You would have to be terminally online to be upset over something this trivial
we all are,
I think it's a fair point. Anyone could be either person so no one instance of this is directly offensive, but I agree memes like this seem to routinely put down women.
I don't think op is pissing and shitting and crying over it, there's just no place to talk about it other than the meme itself. Anyone could criticise your comment in the same way, and it's just a strawman argument.
Third party service run by corpos who pinky promise not to harvest any of your data
In-app tool that doesn't cache your client-side data
Is the woman the negative side on this?
I think that was the intent. Lemmy is extremely anti-Google.
I genuinely wonder what people think they're using a VPN for. Do they think they've outwitted a trillion dollars in surveillance with an $8/mo subscription service?
A VPN is part of a toolset. No tool alone is enough, and they only really work for some porpoises.
Some people think it is enough. Some people think chrome incognito is enough. Some people are wrong.
I'm any case, privacy is a spectrum. I can't be untraceable by state agents, but I can avoid a lot of non targeted spying.
Absolutely. But then, as often as not, just using the browser feature that doesn't cache client side data is enough.
The only thing that does is prevents other people who have physical access to the computer from seeing your gross browsing habits though...which I guess might be enough for many.
I mean it def makes it harder to track.
Ummm yes I am betting people think that. Are they wrong? It makes sense that Google could do that if they really wanted to, but I doubt they do pretty much anything that doesn't have a profit motive.
What? I always thought the guy was the negative side! The woman is the reasonable normie, the guy is the weirdo tinfoil hat nerd!
What even are all those crappy icons?
What is the meme from? So I can search it on know your meme.
Edit: https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/i-love-video-games-me-too
https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/i-love-video-games-me-too
They are both the bad side in this case.
The format doesn't seem to be inherently. Have you tried interacting with fewer dudes?
This meme format is inherently sexist. Anytime you have a meme format that has both a man and a woman on it, and one side is going to be the "bad" side, it's always going to bring out the biases of whoever is creating it.
1 Semantics, but that doesn't sound "inherently" sexist to me.
2 I'm pretty sure it just makes more comedic sense to put the unexpected interpretation on the right (or women's side), so the "bad side" is different depending on the topic. I personally see this meme more often with the man being a surface level fan of something with the women being unexpectedly deep into the fandom. Like, among the earliest known edits (according to knowyourmeme) is the man just liking sports games with the women liking soulslikes.
They are literally just looking at each other. If anything she has a more annoyed look on her face. He's thirsty af and shes rolling her eyes at him.
i think I've seen a lot of cases when it's the other way round.
although if we do the statistics it'll likely show a bias.
Not everything is sexist queen 💅
It's fish in a barrel.
You don't always hit, but the odds are stacked heavily in your favor
Ok. This meme is.
If it were the other way around, would it be sexist?
Is it required that any meme with a “good” and “bad” side have no demographic distinction between the sides?
It's not that this one example is like this, it's that it seems to always be one way around and not the other, with this meme format
Yes, it would still be sexist if it were the other way around. I don't think I've ever seen a meme with this format which didn't have a "good" and "bad" side.
I’m genuinely curious what you’d think if they were both thin white straight-coded average-height women but with different hair color.
Well, it would be difficult for a format like that to bring out the biases of meme creators.
One of the reasons this meme format is problematic is that this is a screenshot from "500 Days of Summer" which was a film that was wildly misunderstood by misogynists. The entire point of the film is to show the perspective of the male character, which villainizes the female character when she breaks his heart when she dumps him. But by the end of the movie the viewer is supposed to realize that she did nothing wrong and just wasn't as in to him as he was into her.
Incels and misogynists everywhere misunderstood the hell out of the themes and message. So it's not a great movie to take a meme format from.
Wut? How? This meme was originally gay lol
Incels.