Funny

That's okay, don't feel too bad about it... but if you do I hear there's a potion for that.

A key component of dialectal behavior therapy is focusing your sense of injustice in ways that allow you to enact the most change while coming to peace with the things you can't. I started working on a sub about skills building but did get discouraged for a bit by low engagement. The wiki is pretty fully fleshed out though: !DIYMentalHealth@lemmy.dbzer0.com

You can alchemy your way into making Molotov cocktails, that would help

i bet alchemy could though. let's recreate paracelsus

That's why Isaac Newton is still alive

Therapy never fixes you problems. It's there to provide you with the tools to handle and navigate those problems and teach you how to use them.

You can't control the world or society or how other people will feel or react. All you can do is controle your actions and reactions. That's a simple fact of life for everyone. I'm not saying your situation isn't different from most other peoples but that won't angry that the world isn't better won't help you in any way. Figuring out ways to navigate that shitty world on the other hand will.

I have a job and it's a struggle to find reasons to give any fucks anymore. I used to be paid "enough" and according to inflation calculators, I'm making nearly the exact same amount (in terms of buying power) as I did in 2013; but my expenses are definitely higher.

This isn't a competition but if I can't progress in my career at a pace that even rivals inflation, then what the fuck am I even supposed to do?

My responsibilities have increased, but my buying power is ludicrously the same. It's infuriating.

You're not alone.

Theraptrees? In this climate?

Me: "Can I get a referral to a therapist?"

GP: "Uh huh... so, I'm going to need you to take a drug test."

Not to mention it's (usually) expensive

Seriously. I looked into it awhile back for something. My insurance's page was complete garbage. Their provider network is completely useless. Every therapist on there either isn't actually taking new patients, doesn't accept the insurance, or links to a dead site.

You should be able to sue your insurance company $100 for every ghost listing they have in their provider networks.

Ironically you need therapy in order to go to therapy. If someone has issues with overthinking, anxiety about interacting with people, stress/anger issues, depression that makes them unmotivated of course it's going to be hard to go to a stranger they're expected to be their most vulnerable with.

I met my partner 18 years ago. She started therapy regularly after our first five years together. She started to see some patterns in her behaviour, especially toward me, that she wanted to work on. Since then, she has decided she wants to become a therapist.

On the other hand, my journey started when I tried to access counselling 25 years ago. My GP tried to put me on an antidepressant immediately. I said no. Since meeting my partner and her starting her therapeutic journey, she has tried for a long time to get me into seeing a therapist. It took almost 15 years, but I started about a month ago.

Now, this first therapist has not been mind-blowing in any way. No breakthroughs, no revelations. Really, I don't think we're vibing. But, still, being able to say aloud some of the things that I hide from everyone else is, in and of itself, therapeutic.

The list, above, were my stumbling blocks, too. They still are. Add to the list that I'm an underemployed, visible minority, a father-of-two in a high-stress career, and that I refuse to "adjust [blithely] to a profoundly sick society." I'd rather continue to feel my isolation and my detachment than walk into Walmart whistling and smiling at my good fortune.

All this to say (TL;DR) therapy comes from your own commitment to honest self-examination. Guided, surely, but at least attempted. It won't be found in a pill, potion, or portent. I hope to find a therapist who can challenge me to do better.

While undeniably psychology as a field is got some gigantic lingering issues, like one of the worse reproducibility crisis for published papers and the fact they somehow accept outdated ideas (like Freudian psychoanalysis) as just a valid "parallel approach" which does indeed make patients at risk of just throwing money away, there are evidence based therapy options and, for several disorders, therapy is actually the gold standard for treatment.

Some have no pharmacological option, and some have drugs that seem to only work reliably when accompanied by therapy. This doesn't change the valid criticism the field deserves, but we can't write off therapy as a whole.

There are multiple different kinds of therapy. CBT didn't work for me. Reflective listening did. Please don't write off all therapy because one kind did nothing for you.

i needed both. i needed someone to talk to about the fucked up shit i needed to talk about, and i also needed the pills. now i don't need the pills anymore (or at least, I'm tricking myself and my doctor into thinking i don't need them anymore) and probably don't need to talk about the shit anymore too.

Quicksilver is the same as mercury though

Well it's definitely gonna work, kill the depression with pure insanity from all the mercury.