How do I actually do that? I mean the becoming a girl part
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HRT, laser, electro, wardrobe, makeup, voice training, surgeries of various sorts...
Problems with IRL:
- Trump admin will throw me to el salvador
2 My family of origin is ethnic Chinese... very anti trans, bigoted af, they'll call me a "變態" ("pervert", "sick-minded person", or something like that)
I want be BORN as a girl, transitioning is dangerous af.
That's fair, that's part of the reason I kinda dislike memes like this. I'm sure some people have had an easy transition, but myself and a lot of trans people I know have had very difficult ones. I lost a parent over it, which resulted in some time spent very housing insecure in college. I've faced professional and personal discrimination. It's been hard.
And all that matters because it provides serious context to the statement that transitioning was the best decision I ever made. After years of struggling it was the necessary first piece to getting my life together, because it made me able to actually be present in my life and made me not too depressed to do things like study, apply for jobs, and form friendships with new people. It gave me a life worth living at a cost that was nebulous and felt insurmountable at the time I agreed to it.
I much prefer outreach in the form of pointing out that dysphoria doesn't go away without transitioning and by depicting the reality of happy trans people, even those of us who've been disowned.
Do it while on vacation in Montreal during pride. You don't have to transition to have some fun on occasion. 🤗
Yeah, I always play characters who are not like me because I don’t want to watch my onscreen character sit at a desk for years and slowly wither into a bitter husk.
Not for me! I'm fairly gender affirmed and confident on it. Tho, I'm the very definition vanilla, incredibly cishet.
Why? The character on the screen is not me. I do not relate to them. I would never play myself.
I play tropes. Something that is different from what I know in real life. Like I would never pick human if there is an option. Because humans are boring.
Next playthrough it might be something completely different.
I like being a badass warrior chick weilding a huge two handed sword in full plate.
I do not want to be a woman.
I like to play as a girl because i like to look at girls. I don't think that makes me trans.

Plus, we don't all want to be the object of our fascination.
Fascinated with race car drivers? Have you tried actually being one?
Fascinated with criminals? Have you tried actually being one?
Fascinated with doctors? Have you tried actually being one?
Fascinated with hitmen? Have you tried actually being one?
Fascinated with serial killers? Have you tried actually being one?
Yeah, not the best ideas.
Nah I like playing girls in games because they're cute and feminine but in real life I want to be a boy who is cute and fem. I don't want to be a girl.
It's actually a kind of a bummer most games don't let you play as a femboy where you look like a girl mostly but people refer to you as a boy in-game.
absolutely this, we need more femboy options in games! IMO character creators should start with androgynous as a default, and then you can add masc or fem characteristics from there.
It’s actually a kind of a bummer most games don’t let you play as a femboy where you look like a girl mostly but people refer to you as a boy in-game.
I felt this. Most games don't have any options for more slender, fem looking men at all. It's always hairy or muscly.

If I am gonna look at my character's ass for half the game, I'd like a lady bum please! The female form is more visually appealing in my opinion, and I love a good bad ass chick that can kick ass and take names but look divine on Saturday night.
I'm adding this not as a disagreement, I'm certainly not anti hot people, but I think it needs to be said more often:
I play as a girl in video games sometimes, not because I want to be one, not because they're fun to stare at, I just think that being cute can be fun.
Nah, that's not my reason for playing as a girl in video games. I just don't like hearing dudes grunt. And I prefer to look at a pretty girl kick ass.
I used to play as female characters because the guys never had good customisation, "Oh I can be buzzcut Shepard or crewcut Shepard. Hmmmm".
Fem shep had a better voice actor too
Unfair.
Mark Meer is solid and I really enjoyed his performance(s) mostly in 2 and 3.
Jennifer Hale is a voice acting goddess.
I sometimes play as a girl in videogames because if I'm going to be staring at someones ass for several hours it might as well be one I find attractive
Bruh this character creator sucks worse than that from Oblivion.
Instructions unclear, got my gender stuck in the toaster and now it's all burnt and useless
I like playing as a dragon in video games. If only there was a drug that would let me grow wings and breathe fire in the estates of billionaires.
Well... There are drugs that'll let you THINK you're doing all that, and that's almost as good, right?
Look, I played as a female in Cyberpunk 2077 because the female voice actor sounded better than the male.
I did it for long hair. When I played I couldn't have the hair I wanted so fuck it I'll play a woman.
If they want me to play a man, let me have my long hair. Fuckers.
Why on earth is the hairstyle restricted by gender?
Because games do stupid shit sometimes. Thought it was weird CP77 did it though, given how otherwise inclusive the game appears.
I mean I would totally play as a girl IRL if it would be as easy as in videogames and without the negative consequences (thanks sexism and transmisia) ...
what's the -misia mean?
According to Wiktionary^[1]^: "hatred/dislike". It is used as an alternative to the suffix -phobia, which etymologically means fear (although -phobia is often used for hate/dislike)
Yeah I have for Halloween several times, it’s fun but I’m as cis-het as they come. I play girls in games because I like the way they look, and I do mean sexually.
I typically play as a girl when given the choice but I don't think that's anything to read into lol
budder dog
dog wit the buttah
buttur dog
dog wid da butter on 'em
Playing as a girl irl sucks pretty hard though. At least in games being a female character doesn’t often have major implications on how much you can do and how interactions play out.. it’s just a full-on 1-1 replacement that has no bearing on anything but aesthetics.
Nah I only really play as girls to balance out getting seen as a "guy" so much IRL. Neither the "girl" build nor the "guy" build really have the kind of gameplay I'm looking for. What I really wanted to play as is something that makes people wonder which one I am. But when the random rolls in the character creator spit you out growing to 6'2" with a build like a fridge in a fursuit that build ain't something you can really respec into. So I'm stuck with "Giant Dad" basically.
I play as women. I find the models more attractive and the voice acting pleasant. Not in a sexual way, I just don’t like male models and voices. They don’t give a whole lot of variety which is unfair. Male night elves in wow could at least have pretty hair but their shoulders were massive so nope.
I love playing as a girl even more in real life than in the games.


