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[–] kylie_kraft@lemmy.world 103 points 5 hours ago (4 children)

The story is a bit more complicated than the meme lets on.

First, while she was certainly very ill after 2 heart attacks, it is unclear if his wife was terminally ill. She was disabled and had mental illness. The husband says that she wanted to die so she left the nursing home. Second, the drug binge went on for 5 days and her condition deteriorated throughout. While she was presumably doing large amounts of meth amphetamines, she also was not taking her prescribed medications. Third, at least in the article that I linked above, the sex occured at the very end and he said that she was unable to speak at that point and she died more or less immediately after. Finally, she died of a meth overdose, and not of her other illnesses.

I'm all for dying on your own terms, and if this was truly her idea or she was fully on board, more power to them. However, the wife can't speak for herself and all we've got is this guy's word.

[–] voodooattack@lemmy.world 6 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Huh. This is new

Anyways, she could have left a note back at the nursing home under her pillow: “I wanted this” in her handwriting would have saved hin a lot of headache. But I’m assuming she could write and that’s not her specific handicap from the disability? Can’t tell without access to the article.

[–] myavatar@feddit.org 5 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

Fired up my VPN :)

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By Crystal Bonvillian, Cox Media Group National Content Desk

August 13, 2019 at 11:47 am EDT

SEARLES, Minn. — A Minnesota man who threw his wife a drug-fueled “death party” before she died in January was sentenced Monday to serve three years in prison.

Duane Arden Johnson, 59, of Searles, was initially charged with third-degree murder in the death of his wife, Debra Lynn Johnson. Debra Johnson, 69, died of methamphetamine toxicity Jan. 24 in the couple’s home.

The Mankato Free Press reported that Duane Johnson agreed to plead guilty to the lesser charge of felony neglect. A Brown County judge sentenced him to three years, with credit for 201 days already served.

Related story: Police: Man, ailing wife had ‘death party,’ used meth for days before she died

Johnson was arrested Jan. 24 and charged with criminal neglect after he called 911 and reported his wife’s death.

According to court documents, the first deputy to arrive at the couple’s home found the words, “Death Parde God Hell” in red spray paint on the screen door. A naked Duane Johnson opened the screen door and screamed, “My wife is dead upstairs,” the charging document stated.

He ran back inside saying he “needed to wash this stuff off of (him).”

The deputy found him sitting in the bathtub in a bathroom on the main floor of the home, the court document said. Johnson told the deputy he had to wash with soap and bleach to get little black and white “things” off his skin.

While sitting in the tub, Johnson said his wife had been “shaking so violently” and he “couldn’t stand seeing her flop around anymore,” the document said.

When the deputy asked why Johnson did not seek medical help for his wife, he told him the last time she was brought to New Ulm Medical Center, “them (expletives) revived her” and “them (expletive) in New Ulm made my life (expletive).”

Other responding deputies found Debra Johnson’s body wrapped in a sheet at the top of the stairs, the charging document said. The sheet was held in place by a belt.

Debra Johnson was still warm, but rigor mortis was beginning to set in.

Read the entire criminal complaint against Duane Johnson below.

Duane Arden Johnson Complaint by National Content Desk on Scribd

Duane Arden Johnson Complaint

When the deputies asked if that was his wife in the sheet, Duane Johnson told them it was and that he “prepared the dead like the Bible told (him) to,” the document said. He said he followed the Old Testament by “cleaning her, making her beautiful and wrapping her in linen.”

Johnson told deputies that his wife had been a patient in a nursing home but begged him to take her home to die. Officials at the New Ulm Medical Center told investigators Debra Johnson had been at a nursing facility following two heart attacks.

She also had diabetes and high blood pressure, as well as mental illnesses for which she took antipsychotic medication.

Duane Johnson took his wife home against medical advice, the document said.

In her final days, Duane Johnson said, his wife had stopped taking her medication as they used meth and “rocked out” for several days to their favorite band, Quiet Riot.

The charging document stated when Debra Johnson could no longer eat or drink, her husband used snow from outside their home to moisten her mouth.

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Duane Johnson said his wife suffered convulsions during that time frame but would not allow him to call for help. He told investigators he held her to keep her from hurting herself during the seizures.

He also told deputies Debra Johnson disabled the telephone, so he could not call for help. The charging document stated investigators found the phone in working order.

“(Johnson) reported that he couldn’t stand to see (his wife) suffer anymore and that he had promised her a party,” the document said. “He said he didn’t want her to hear him crying, so he turned up the music real loud and that they had been ‘rocking out’ for three days.”

The “death party” Johnson said his wife had requested had been ongoing for five days, the court document said. He said his wife had been shaking and trembling in the couple of days leading up to her death.

Less than two hours before she died, Johnson said, his wife wanted him to have sex with her one more time. He also said, however, that she could not speak as they were having intercourse, but “her body had told him that she was enjoying it.”

He said that “after they were finished, she was no longer trembling and was more at peace,” the document said.

Related story: Man who held meth-fueled ‘death party’ for sick wife now charged with murder

When deputies asked Johnson why he did not call 911 immediately after his wife died, he said, “I wanted to make sure she was dead.”

Johnson was charged with murder after his wife’s autopsy found she died not of natural causes, but of a methamphetamine overdose.

Johnson was also charged with receiving stolen property after investigators found several guns, including four rifles and two shotguns, in the home, as well as hundreds of rounds of ammunition. Duane Johnson told them he had 47 guns, several of which were stolen.

The disposition of those charges was not immediately available

[–] Imgonnatrythis@sh.itjust.works 46 points 5 hours ago

Nonreductionist history is such a drag man.

[–] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Sometimes with people, I try to imagine them as ants and what type of ant they'd be.

[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 0 points 4 hours ago

I have a tendency to see most people as so pathetic, they are cute, so pathetic, they could be pets, or deranged demonic beasts. Really hard to have actual respect for humans when I'm feed news like this.

[–] BastingChemina@slrpnk.net 5 points 4 hours ago

Also, the guy in the picture is 58

If I were on the jury, I'd never convict this man.

[–] DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world 78 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

That's the face of a man who does not give one single fuck about being arrested. And, we all know why.

[–] Damage@feddit.it 3 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

I don't think they use the pictures of the actual people in these memes

[–] AlfalFaFail@lemmy.ml 0 points 2 hours ago

That's him.

[–] Triumph@fedia.io 61 points 6 hours ago

You know, why the fuck not?

[–] Sunsofold@lemmings.world 28 points 6 hours ago

Sure, you love your girlfriend. But how much?

I'd kill for her. I'd die for her.

But would you spend the rest of your life in jail to give her the most fun send-off when she's terminally ill?

[–] Gork@sopuli.xyz 32 points 6 hours ago

That's the blue meth too, a sign of good quality!

[–] sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 19 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

I present to the jury Florida man's brother:

Average Montana people

[–] FoxyFerengi@startrek.website 8 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Not disputing that Montana is full of meth, but this happened in Minnesota

[–] sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 6 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago) (1 children)

Jesus I'm dumb.Thank you, Farengi. Maybe Montana is a little methed but they didn't deserve to catch my strays like that

[–] ThanksObama@sh.itjust.works 2 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

No, they definitely deserved it. (Former resident)

[–] sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 1 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) (1 children)

Same, what prompted your flight?

[–] FoxyFerengi@startrek.website 2 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) (1 children)

I'm a current MT resident, planning to leave because I can't afford it anymore and I keep having to travel out of state for specialty medical care. And honestly, the number of times people have used slurs around me is too damn high

[–] sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 2 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

About what I was expecting. It's the same story all along the Rocky Mountains. The States keep becoming tax havens for billionaires, prices go up, the locals get nasty with the newcomers and eachother. MT always had that underlying KKK populace though.

Hope you make it somewhere you feel safer

[–] FoxyFerengi@startrek.website 2 points 3 hours ago

Thank you 💜

[–] ekZepp@lemmy.world 9 points 5 hours ago

Do what you want. I've won.