this post was submitted on 22 May 2026
447 points (98.9% liked)

196

6504 readers
1376 users here now

Community Rules

You must post before you leave

Be nice. Assume others have good intent (within reason).

Block or ignore posts, comments, and users that irritate you in some way rather than engaging. Report if they are actually breaking community rules.

Use content warnings and/or mark as NSFW when appropriate. Most posts with content warnings likely need to be marked NSFW.

Most 196 posts are memes, shitposts, cute images, or even just recent things that happened, etc. There is no real theme, but try to avoid posts that are very inflammatory, offensive, very low quality, or very "off topic".

Bigotry is not allowed, this includes (but is not limited to): Homophobia, Transphobia, Racism, Sexism, Abelism, Classism, or discrimination based on things like Ethnicity, Nationality, Language, or Religion.

Avoid shilling for corporations, posting advertisements, or promoting exploitation of workers.

Proselytization, support, or defense of authoritarianism is not welcome. This includes but is not limited to: imperialism, nationalism, genocide denial, ethnic or racial supremacy, fascism, Nazism, Marxism-Leninism, Maoism, etc.

Avoid AI generated content.

Avoid misinformation.

Avoid incomprehensible posts.

No threats or personal attacks.

No spam.

Moderator Guidelines

Moderator Guidelines

  • Don’t be mean to users. Be gentle or neutral.
  • Most moderator actions which have a modlog message should include your username.
  • When in doubt about whether or not a user is problematic, send them a DM.
  • Don’t waste time debating/arguing with problematic users.
  • Assume the best, but don’t tolerate sealioning/just asking questions/concern trolling.
  • Ask another mod to take over cases you struggle with, if you get tired, or when things get personal.
  • Ask the other mods for advice when things get complicated.
  • Share everything you do in the mod matrix, both so several mods aren't unknowingly handling the same issues, but also so you can receive feedback on what you intend to do.
  • Don't rush mod actions. If a case doesn't need to be handled right away, consider taking a short break before getting to it. This is to say, cool down and make room for feedback.
  • Don’t perform too much moderation in the comments, except if you want a verdict to be public or to ask people to dial a convo down/stop. Single comment warnings are okay.
  • Send users concise DMs about verdicts about them, such as bans etc, except in cases where it is clear we don’t want them at all, such as obvious transphobes. No need to notify someone they haven’t been banned of course.
  • Explain to a user why their behavior is problematic and how it is distressing others rather than engage with whatever they are saying. Ask them to avoid this in the future and send them packing if they do not comply.
  • First warn users, then temp ban them, then finally perma ban them when they break the rules or act inappropriately. Skip steps if necessary.
  • Use neutral statements like “this statement can be considered transphobic” rather than “you are being transphobic”.
  • No large decisions or actions without community input (polls or meta posts f.ex.).
  • Large internal decisions (such as ousting a mod) might require a vote, needing more than 50% of the votes to pass. Also consider asking the community for feedback.
  • Remember you are a voluntary moderator. You don’t get paid. Take a break when you need one. Perhaps ask another moderator to step in if necessary.

founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
 
top 23 comments
sorted by: hot top controversial new old
[–] red_tomato@lemmy.world 55 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

I bottomed at 18.

Not that bottom

[–] djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 1 month ago (1 children)

amateur hour, I was bottoming when I was 16

[–] WhoIzDisIz@lemmy.today 5 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Who can top this bottom?

[–] Ikonaka@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 month ago

I bottomed at 18. ... That bottom

[–] Derpenheim@lemmy.zip 33 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Im so lucky that I hit rock bottom at 17. I dont have any memories of "oh, what I used to be able to do" in highschool

[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 month ago

Yeah, school was shite ... I think I peaked at about 33 and made the most of that time in my life

[–] SystemDisc@feddit.org 5 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Totally. Life only got better for me in my twenties, onward, because I hit rock bottom from 17 to 19.

[–] Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It gets even better in your 30s. Sure, youth is nice, having energy to do things is great. But I can feel the difference in myself after my brain finally hit full maturity in my mid-upper 20s. I hear my younger coworkers talking about their dramatic social lives and inside I'm grateful that I've already "been there, done that." If I meet someone my age who's still surrounded by drama, I know they're part of the issue and probably won't change, because most of us left that crap behind as we learned how to process our feelings and communicate more effectively.

Aging isn't exciting, but it's definitely more peaceful than youth. (Unless/until kids come along, that is. Then it becomes our turn to help them manage their wild emotions.)

[–] LGTM@discuss.tchncs.de 17 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Wait, I was supposed to hit a peak?

[–] Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Nah, hitting a peak means you've stopped improving. The fact you haven't hit it yet means you're still getting more awesome every year. Keep it up, queen/king/my liege 👑 (attempting a gender-neutral term here, pick whichever feels right.)

[–] fleem@piefed.zeromedia.vip 16 points 1 month ago

mine probably woulda been like 22, but shit, still

[–] WhoIzDisIz@lemmy.today 11 points 1 month ago (2 children)

What's weird about a combination of weed & mental illness? Seems perfectly normal to me.

(And, no - that's not because I partake. When I was young, that shit gave me a massive headache for some reason so I never got into it.)

[–] Chronographs@lemmy.zip 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

They’re saying his entire personality consists of weed and mental illness

[–] WhoIzDisIz@lemmy.today 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

And yet they're still having sex with him? Who's got the more serious mental illness?

[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Being mentally ill doesn't stop someone's genitals from working

[–] WhoIzDisIz@lemmy.today 3 points 1 month ago

"Don't stick your dick in crazy!"

It was a joke, buy apparently that wasn't as obvious as I thought.

[–] Malyca@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 month ago

It's normal for me. I have made the most progress towards healing and self growth with weed. It's like it allows me to open doors in my mind that are usually shut. They are shut by mental illness. You're not going to find me complaining about the only thing that's ever helped me. The side effects are worth it.

[–] MrChewy@lemmy.world 10 points 1 month ago

I peaked at f-ing 12 maan, everything else was either depression or recovering from it Dx

[–] SaharaMaleikuhm@feddit.org 7 points 1 month ago

Can't relate. I'm peaking right now. It's quite easy when the bar is so low.

[–] Muffi@programming.dev 5 points 1 month ago

All the homies are just combinations of weed and mental illness. And are also just hallucinations caused by my own weed and mental illness.

[–] magic_smoke@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 month ago

I peaked when I was a quarter cracked egg.

Yeah okay pal, nice try.