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[–] viertesauge@feddit.org 15 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

If you believe it long enough some lovely person is going to materialize in your room while you bedrot. All your shortcomings, lack of motivation and energy levels are magically going to be fixed and you will totally have a wonderful relationship not ruined by your own insecurities and emotional instabilty. :)

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 6 points 13 hours ago

Just post about how lonely you are. Well adjusted and happy people think it's hot.

[–] darthsundhaft@piefed.social 1 points 9 hours ago
[–] TranscendentalEmpire@lemmy.today 10 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

People generally aren't sad because they are alone, they're usually alone because they are sad. No special person is going to bring you the happiness you are missing in your life, you're more likely to just infect the other person with your own misery.

I had to learn this the hard way when I was a younger man, and the year I took away from dating to work on myself I ended up meeting my wife of now 15 years. Being a good partner is about sharing your happiness together, and asking someone to be the sole provider of contentment is just too much of an ask out of anyone.

Being good to someone requires you to first be good to yourself. Self contentment is easy to spot, and just about everyone finds it super attractive in a partner. This is unasked for advice from an older happily married man and survivorship bias is a bitch, so your mileage may vary.

[–] Azzu@leminal.space 7 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Except that it's easily possible to be miserable together and have no contentment within either partner. In fact, that is the majority.

[–] TranscendentalEmpire@lemmy.today 4 points 15 hours ago

Definitely been there, but I don't think those types of relationships tend to last very long. At least not in my experience.

[–] mrmisses@lemmy.world 7 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

I see the problem. He's a grotesque Stickman irl but is dreaming of being a regular man. This is secretly a comic about trans people

[–] AllNewTypeFace@leminal.space 2 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

There are non-trans people?

[–] mrmisses@lemmy.world 1 points 11 hours ago

Yeah but I don't know why