"Dating apps do not optimize for you to find the love of your life, they optimize for you coming back to the app" - Connor Leahy
this post was submitted on 12 Sep 2026
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Not surprising at all, one conglomerate owns pretty much every single one of them, and it they're successful you don't need them anymore.
Who's shocked.
My Male coworkers scroll hrs a daily for a match and get terrible options.
Meanwhile Female coworkers get overwhelmed with 100s and cannot possibly get the best fit for them. Horrible for both sides.
this is by design. NO COMPANY in the entire world is going to provide a product in hopes that one day you won't need to use it anymore. So dating apps, by design, provide you with horrible matches so that you keep using said app. They don't want you finding the "love of your life", it's bad business if they did.
good riddance!
After Grindr started using PairIP and made this mod unusable: https://github.com/R0rt1z2/GrindrPlus, Grindr has become shit if you don't pay for it.