People do consensual noncon all the time. Nothing wrong with being into that at all. Just make sure boundaries are established and respected with safewords/signals and clear communication :p fantasies are OK
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Ain't no kink in the world that's problematic as long as everyone is sane and consents.
I'm afraid OP's sanity is compromised sometimes
Tbh, i gotta say I get it. I felt so awkward trying to explain to somebody what "dubcon" (ie. dubious consent) was and why I like it so much recently lmao.
we just a bunch of little freaks here 😊
(Also I love how popular soundgasm is here, I feel so seen)
Omg I feel seen! 🩷
Had to look up dubcon. Moar categories for me! Thx!
we just a bunch of little freaks here 😊
Yesh :3
(Also I love how popular soundgasm is here, I feel so seen)
YES OMFG FINALLY SOMEBODY GETS IT 😭
SOUNDGASM????... recs...?
Subscribing to this train of...threads
Please give recommendations :3
GIRLIE, YOU SHOULD HAVE THE RECS FOR ME. PLEASE GIVE GODDAMNIT >.<
All the recs I have are pre-egg crack, so they're F4M dammit 😭
NSFW, bad, TMI, SA
They're still rape...just F4M rape
They're not bad, I just really don't wanna get misgendered while...you know ;-;
Please ignore me if this is a weird question, but you didn't go for m4m?
Funnily enough...no. I used to think I was into girls. Took asking a couple of them out to realize...nuh-uh 😆
When being cis and straight is the norm, it's hard to imagine yourself as...well, the opposite of that 😂
Well, I'm still straight, but you get it...
Oh no I get it, I'm happy you figured it all out now! Funnily enough I think I was more open to M4F pre-transition, now the thought I could be into men kind of scares me
Am... stupid... huh? F4M seems fine? Tbh, romance in general is super nice...
What I mean is, I wouldn't want to listen to F4M now, post egg-crack. I really don't wanna get constantly misgendered while trying to...finish
It's hard as it is already, okay? 😭
Takes me an hour 🥲
...omg I understand now. I was being a bit stupey there. Saaame.
Find me some nice ones then! >:)
hahaha no problem, bit of a GWA vet myself (used to post, will not be sharing my old username :P)
also, oddly? Always happy to talk about porn lmao
GWA? I'm sorry...gamer with attitude? 😂
Always happy to talk about porn lmao
ALWAYS
Not joking. Here. DMs. Matrix. Don't care. Please, moar porn talk 🙏
(my Matrix username is literally horny_miisha so that would be pretty fitting 😭)
hahaha GWA was the gonewildaudio subreddit, but i dumped my reddit accounts on the first exodus
uh...truth be told I'm a biiit of an exhibitionist and quite enjoy recording myself 😅
and same, DMs are always open. Always love new friends.
Aha, didn't know what GWA meant, thanks!
Exhibitionism is good tho :3
Recording yourself...damn 🤭
If I had done literally any voice training at all, I'd probably be doing the same, lol
Hahaha! I have very little voice training, I just am bi and am attracted to my own voice - I am also aware of how vain that sounds 😅
I did do some theatre in uni so there is that!
No shame in that! At least someone here is okay with their voice...
Theater is cool af, omfg. Love it 💜
Hahaha, well I do feel like a lot of building confidence is just desensitizing yourself to your own voice, over time your brain has a way of...I guess, reconciling the voice you hear in a recording to the voice you hear in your head, like your interpretation of the sound gains context over time? Idk if my wording makes sense, I am stoned 😅
Also theatre was an absolute blast, I didn't act much, but I am okay, I was way more on the set-building and light-installing/operating side
I am stoned 😅
Hey, leave some for the rest of us :3
I fucking hate my voice. I legit just can't record myself. I hate it so much...
Theater sounds amazing! 💜
hahaha I'm Canadian, so i have LOTS lmao
and awwe, I haven't heard your voice but I am sure it is just lovely.
Rigth back at you! :3
It's legal here too, I just can't find a source and my bf won't let me do any gardening 😭
Also...just no. My voice sucks ass.
But...there is a person on Lemmy that has heard it before...if you really wanted to, you could ask him...I'll tell you who, if you want :3
it's ok! I'll respect your privacy :)
and thats a shame, rude- ass bf lmao
Not even the voice I hear sounds like the voice in my head. (Not that it bothers me, but they are two things for me)
Honestly I think that's fine lol, I see those kinds of audios a lot. I personally can only barely handle degradation so this isn't for me, but it's clearly an in-demand category.
Lol that's fair
I guess it is an in-demand category...but what does that say about humanity? OwO
Maybe they were right...maybe I'm just weird fr 😔
degradation is real tho... It's the best... ;-;
HUH? YOU? DEGRADATION?
I mean, I'm not judging, but damn...I never would've guessed...
GEEZ girl... I'm WAAAAAY too into degradation... Easiest way to make me blush...
HUUUH?
Yeaaaaaaaaaaaaaah... post more please....... I tell you to stop or control yourself sorta thing for your sake... I myself am... A LOT...
Girl...you're a lot? Oh really?
NSFW, bad, possible trauma, references to SA, just bad
I quite literally want to be raped. And I'm not exactly quiet about it...
I think we both have some deep trauma. But it isn't our fault, okay? We live in a fucked up world. We'll get through this, together 🩷
I'm here for you... even if I'm terrible at being there for myself despite understanding I have a problem there...
You have SERIOUS problems under your CW... but please know you can get through them... it'll be okay, you can be loved, you can be happy. Okay?
You have SERIOUS problems under your CW…
Yeah, I ummm...yeah. I know. I honestly don't think I can get rid of this, but...I can at least try to keep myself safe. I can stop myself from trying to make it happen, as fucked up as that sounds...
Thanks Teag. I'll try ❤️
i will just pop in to say that there are ways to experience that in a safe environment. consensual nonconsent / rape play is by no means unheard of, nor is it in any way problematic so long as there's a safeword for you to use when you're actually not having fun anymore
virtually any BDSM club is likely to have people who would love to try it with you, degrading you, ignoring and dismissing your cries for them to stop, lording their power over you, and if you decide you don't actually like it, all you have to do is say "pineapple" and they switch on a dime to comforting you and making sure you're okay
So I've been told, many times. Thanks for the recommendation, but I think this is a way deeper problem. However, I'm trying, I think...
Really tho, thanks ❤️
Thank youuuuu! You better try girlie ❤
I guess...it's just so hard. It's hard to even talk about sometimes, just because I know how fucked up it is...
I need therapy
Maybe who were right? It's not weird, it's all fantasy anyway.
Idk, people... :P
It's all just fantasy...
