jtrek

You are making the world worse by driving when other options are available.

You then responded to this claim by changing the topic to how billionaires are making the world worse. That's a whole other topic. That's probably a deflection to preserve your sense of self as a good person.

If you truly believe "other people are worse so I'm allowed to be bad too" then go ahead and say it. I don't think that's a great moral framework, but it would require you to admit that your unnecessary driving is in fact bad, so I'd take that as a win.

That depends on the app. On hinge, you can (and should) send a message with your like.

On tinder and close relatives, you can only work on your profile.

It's funny in a sad way that Google et al let search get really bad, and then try to suggest we use LLMs instead of search. I was happy being able to type in like "react usememo hook" and finding the official docs, stack overflow, and maybe a blog or two. Now it's so much more slop, the temptation to ask the LLM "how do I use usememo" is higher.

Because my driving to work in my car is somehow so much worse on our entire world compared to what billionaires are doing

That wasn't the claim. My point was that driving makes the world worse. The presence of other people making the world worse to greater degrees or at greater speed is irrelevant.

You're arguing against a made up claim, probably to justify feeling attacked. Your ego is threatened. It's common for people to lash out when their sense of being a Good Person is threatened.

"years of pleading" for an open relationship is kind of a flag. Maybe not a red one, but certainly a warning of some sort.

Also, not to repeat myself, but I think a lot of guys are kind of bad at dating and dating apps. There's a lot of self sabotage and then blaming external forces. A message of "hey" isn't going to win any prizes, and yet that's all some people can muster.

You don't need to be in amazing shape (though it probably doesn't hurt) but you need to be way more interesting and emotionally mature than the average guy.

If you're the kind of person who gets upset like in this meme that your newly non-monogamous wife got more dates than you did, you are not mature enough to be getting dates with other non-monogamous people.

It is kind of sometimes a can't-win situation.

If you don't fluff them up first, then they get upset that you're too blunt. But if you do add the fluff, then other people get upset that you're wasting their time with fluff.

Personally, I think a healthy person should be able to accept an email that says like "Please update SomeLibrary to 9.0.2 (or later) by Friday. The maintainers fixed a security issue, and we should upgrade" without crying about how you hurt their feelings, but many people are not healthy.

I think all of my shirts either have no logo, or have a logo for something i like and want to talk about (eg: a band, a local attraction).

I wouldn't want to advertise some soulless megacorp like adidas

If I woke up at 5am, I'd have to go to bed at like 8pm to get a full night's sleep. I went to a friend's party yesterday that didn't even start until 800pm. Getting up that early on the regular would mean a death blow to social life, or you'd be exhausted all the time from staying up into normal evening hours.

Ok clearly it's not literally about making CDs and people saying "just make your own streaming service" are both missing the point and vastly over estimating the capacity of the average person.

The important part that's largely missing from today's music environment is the personal touch and investment. Many people, as the author says, just comfortably coast through an algorithmic smoothie of familiar music. That is inferior to a friend saying "I made you this mix" and then you actually listen to it, attentively, more than once.

It doesn't have to be a CD. It can be a zip file. But the intention and focus was important.

I'm an outlier in that I never let "the algorithm" choose what plays. Sometimes I still make mixes for friends, though lately they've just been a collection of links. That process of choosing is meaningful. My friend still listens to the mix I made for them when their job laid them off, sometimes.

I feel like a lot of companies don't do things the good way not because the good way is hard, or the bad way is cheaper, but because management is stupid. Stupid or sometimes apathetic.