jtrek

I was going to write "this depends on the ATS used" but I thought that was a safe assumption. Seems not so!

Tried to submit one and it didn't seem to go through.

My hypothetical is a lot of recruiters are kind of bad at their job, but there's so many desperate candidates that they don't need to do much to get passable results.

A hiring manager told me when she fills a position, it automatically sends the email to the other candidates. It's not a human touch.

I think it's undeniable there are a lot of very stupid people, and many of them are loud gamers.

One of the problems is humans are social creatures. Facts don't change minds. In-group pressure changes minds. (And sometimes horrific trauma, but only sometimes*). The typical person, confronted with an idea that contradicts a non-trivial belief, will evaluate primarily if the person presenting the belief is in-group. The same kind of message delivered by different people has very different outcomes.

With the Internet, idiots and assholes can find their own social groups to reinforce their shitty beliefs.

If we want to fix this, we'd have to do the long, expensive, and thankless work of getting them to see us as in-group, and getting them to then adopt better ideas. Incidentally, that's how the right wing has been operating.

Laughing at them for being fucking morons is satisfying, but it's like picking at a scab. It's not going to heal.

It worked fine for me with vanilla Firefox android and ublock

We really let the stupidest people have all the money and make the big decisions.

True. Having some reasonable photos and sending a good first message helps with that. Ask your friends of your desired gender to look at your profile. (If you have no such friends, maybe work on that, too.)

Some people just write "hey" and that's a really poor strategy. Write something that plays off their profile.

Also don't spend too long chatting on the app. Initial exchange, like 1-3 more volleys, clear any deal breakers, ask them out. You want to get in person so all the normal human things like body language work for you, and the siren song of new matches is somewhat muted.

Conservatives tend to believe in different rules for different people. They don't really believe in equality

I guess I'm an elder millennial now. Got the greying hair and all.

I had pretty good success on the dating apps without paying. Location is a big factor. But also, as the saying goes, "the bar for men is in hell". I think just having a reasonable conversation and caring about her put me a tier above the average.

Of course, the apps are profit seeking machines that don't especially want you to be happy. They can work, but they're not trying to.

I'm pretty sure the apps algorithm didn't think I'd click with my partner. It feels very much "pretty close", like they wanted me to have a few dates and move on. But to everyone's surprise we really got on, despite things that superficially looked incompatible.

Maybe they should instead build technology that people want and that solves their needs.

Hierarchy is simply a reality. Believing in hierarchy is like believing in reality itself (i.e. someone is going to be better than me at weaving baskets voilà you have a hierarchy: simple as).

That's not exactly what was meant by hierarchy. It's more like having some people rule over others is good and natural. And that people don't really change their station in life. You're a peasant so course the royal family rules over you. They're good at ruling. Perhaps innately.

There is no obvious limit to what can be considered “charity.” So, if the government takes responsibility for providing charity instead of leaving it to individuals and communities, it can use that as a reason to keep expanding its power and responsibilities.

I don't find this a compelling argument. "Something bad might happen so we shouldn't do anything". I'm sure many of the people suffering from lack of food, shelter, and health care also do not find it compelling. You shouldn't go outside because bad things can happen there. You shouldn't lend your phone to your friend because there's no obvious limit what they can do with it. You can use this argument to avoid anything.

The appeal to the "founding fathers" is not very effective. They lived a very long time ago in a very different world, and were not saints.

this is what Conservatives actually believe

It kind of is! They believe in hierarchy, and that people need to be in their correct place for the world to work. It's a reason they oppose things like social programs- things that try to bring people up contradict the natural order and lead to bad times!

They're kind of bad people, fundamentally.