We are being governed by the worst among us
jtrek
joined 3 months ago
I don't agree a "maybe" is a "MASSIVE" assumption. Maybe they're telling the truth. But maybe they're wrong.
I didn't make assumptions about your relationships. Please read more carefully.
It's hard not to draw uncharitable conclusions when people you considered friends don't reach out.
They may be struggling, but that's an explanation not an excuse. The sadness experienced by the person who never gets called, never gets invited, and feels forgotten, is real.
You think about what they do spend time on. Who they do call. It invites comparison. Why did they invite them but not me? Do they not like me? Was it something I said? It's impossible to know. They might not know themselves.
I follow a guideline of "follow their behavior, and if you have extra emotional energy then model the behavior you want to see". If they reach out sometimes, I'll reach out sometimes. If they don't, I don't, until I feel like I have the extra energy to risk them blowing me off or whatever.
How do they feel about it? Are you sure? How do you know?
In America, we resolve our political differences at the ballot box,
Do we though?
Without doing any research, I feel like I hear about fewer hate crimes targeting trans men than trans women? I'd guess because our society is obsessive with policing women's bodies. A guy with no beard is whatever, but a woman with some fuzz or stubble is a crime.
(Not to say that trans men don't have their own struggles)
That doesn't really address people betting on horrible things and then making them happen.
Also "it will just go underground" is still kind of a win? The average person isn't going to navigate sketchy underground arrangements, but they'll find a slick website with good SEO.
All tools are not equally safe nor should they all be publicly available.
A chainsaw is a tool that you might cause harm with if you use it in stupid ways. We don't give chainsaws out to children. We don't use chainsaws for cutting dinner.
There are human elements to the problem but that's not a big reveal.
I dislike postman. I see job postings that are like "MUST KNOW POSTMAN". Fuck, people should know how to make API requests but postman isn't the only tool for that.
Furthermore, if I'm doing automated tests to run on PR I'm not going to use a GUI. Pytest or jest or whatever testing library your language has.
I did use Bruno for a while for convenience during local development, though.
There are many ways to express any given truth, or facets of the truth.
"That dress makes you look fat"
"That dress doesn't flatter you"