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There are individuals who go into it thinking the therapist is there to 100% solve their problems, without any work from themselves. It’s a tail of the bell curve thing, but it does exist. Inpatient mental health, the temporary version, same thing.
. Here’s your homework. Response: I’m not here to do homework. (Actual quote).
. What do you think is your biggest struggle? That you people are supposed to fix this [struggle] and you never fucking do. (Actual quote).
. Bring up working on the problem. I’m not being paid to do the work, you are. (Actual quote).
. Like that. So, I image for those rare individuals, this is what therapy feels like.
Therapists are grifters. Imagine if real doctors said "only you can cure your own cancer". If they don't solve health issues then what are they for? "So what is your biggest struggle? Cancer? And why do you think that is? That'll be 70€, see you next week."
Good doctors do tell their patients to eat better and get exercise to address a massive amount of issues. The patient has to put all the work in.
Not neglecting general self-care is highly separated from fighting mental illness. Imagine if someone had a brain tumour and their neurosurgeon told them they had to "put all the work in" to challenge their body's sickness. It's a pretty ridiculous mindset to have when someone's physiology is literally preventing them from doing that without external help. Why even bother giving the time of day to a practitioner if their advice directly implies that their suffering is entirely their fault?
You keep focusing on life and death physical conditions. Most therapy is not about life and death issues.
See, this is the problem with the average person's understanding of people who get therapy. For them, it is a matter of life and death. They wouldn't be going to therapy if they felt otherwise. An illness like depression, bipolar disorder or even general anxiety can be just as valid and severe as any cancer or disease. Please reconsider the inherently fallacious standpoint you're following of categorizing mental issues as less severe than physical ones. It's incredibly harmful.