Don’t hesitate to find a new therapist either. It can be a lot of work when starting with a new therapist but you owe it to yourself to find someone who you trust and will actually provide the support you need
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Not really therapy is amazing
My experience varies widely. Out of a half dozen different experiences the two men actually listened and prompted something actionable that addressed the issues although one was far better than the other. The other 3 or 4 were women and just leaned into gendered stereotypes because maybe 'that was the real issue' and not what I was talking about.
I'm sure that there are amazing women who are therapists for men, but like most things it can be hard to understand nuance without personal experience and it is important for a therapist to actually understand what you are saying and why you are saying it to resolve anything.
There are individuals who go into it thinking the therapist is there to 100% solve their problems, without any work from themselves. It’s a tail of the bell curve thing, but it does exist. Inpatient mental health, the temporary version, same thing.
. Here’s your homework. Response: I’m not here to do homework. (Actual quote).
. What do you think is your biggest struggle? That you people are supposed to fix this [struggle] and you never fucking do. (Actual quote).
. Bring up working on the problem. I’m not being paid to do the work, you are. (Actual quote).
. Like that. So, I image for those rare individuals, this is what therapy feels like.