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I just find them unnattractive; generally not into piercings or tattoos. To each their own...
Same.
Although maybe "unnattractive" isn't a good fit because I do understand that it's not a woman's default objective to "be attractive" to me. It's more just that maybe I'm a bit weird about ears and noses. If you have something hanging out of your nose my lizard brain alerts me that it's probably a booger. My more sophisticated hominid brain is aware that it's not, but this creates a kind of unsolvable feedback loop that's unsolvable.
Yesterday I was interviewing a candidate for a job. I'm genuinely trying to listen and engage with this cacophony of booger not-booger booger not-booger going on.
I didn't say it was anyone's objective to be attractive to me. And it isn't. I just have (as does everyone else) the agency to decide for myself what I find attractive or not.
Thank you for pointing out the possibly ambiguity of my response though, so I could clarify.
When you say that something is unattractive , it's your personal opinion which you are entitled to. It's fine. We are people, we are diverse.
Im not so sure about that. Of course its fine to not be attracted to different traits, thats not in question. The problem is what we say.
If someone says they find a phrase impolite, or that they find a meal bland, there's an implication that the thing has not met that person's expectations.
People dont sail around expressing their opinion that they find something unattractive for that very reason.
Same, and it's not something I really care to shout from the roof because why does my opinion matter and I don't want to tell people what to do in the first place, but it's also something I can never say even in passing because of what group of people it puts me in
Why’d you feel the need to comment about that?
It's the topic of discussion. And this is a place to share thoughts, ideas and opinions. Since this wasn't somebody's post for themselves, they gave their opinion. Rather respectfully, I might add. So although we like to pretend everyone is of all the same opinions here, that's not the case.
I never said he couldn’t, I just asked why, cause like:
“No I just think they’re ugly”
Work on your reading comprehension. "People who don't like nose rings are pedophiles" is the bigger statement they were responding to
That’s an entirely different statement than what I said, so idk how you mean about reading comprehension