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Honestly, this is very validating to hear since I'm about to cut contact with my mother and elder siblings.
Thats a hard decision to make, congrats on having the courage to take that step in your life.
Thanks! I ended up homeless twice because of them. Once at 19, and now again at 22 years old. I mean, I'm in a nice emergency shelter with my own bedroom and cooked meals, but still.
At least my family cares if I have a roof over my head, even if I had to couch surf at a friend's house and hide from the landlord and then come into this shelter again (they gave me a place last time, too). I slept in the basement during the last night before coming to this shelter again, just to take extra precautions.
Mind you, I'm not a criminal beyond jaywalking and streaming media for free. Not to toot my own horn, but I'm one of the most straitlaced people at this place. I don't smoke/vape (beyond the once in a blue moon hit of weed), I don't drink alcohol, no other drugs, I don't drink coffee, no energy drinks, and I'm not known for getting into fights.
I read a book about cutting ties to toxic people. I wrote a list and included my parents. Absolute night and day on my mental health and my professional health.
I didn't "cut them" like full on ghosting. But keeping my distance and chatting with them once a year.
I'm rooting for your success.
Thank you :). I'm living in an emergency shelter, so I appreciate all the support.