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What a bullshit response to the generalized problem of toxic masculinity and rape culture, not to mention the patriarchy that enables it all.
Your reply is a common reply that is used to defend the criminlization of innocent men, quite often of men that support women in the fight against the patriarchy.
The people who don't care and are not affected by what you say are the enemy. The people who do and are are your allies.
Stop turning against your allies.
if you think that an oppressed group hating their oppressors is a bridge too far then you are not an ally.
The flaw in that statement is that you're saying that all men are oppressing you.
If that's what you think, I could never be your ally because you have already villainized me.
There is nothing I can do to change your perception of me or of men, so if you want me or men to be your allies, you have to accept us as an ally.
If you choose not to do that, then I can only conclude that you are intentionally choosing to argumentatively profit from unfixable dilemmas.
being an ally means using the privilege you are afforded by your gender to fight for women and magnify their voices. men are part of an oppressor group, which means that they are rewarded for wielding misogyny against women. it is /unusual/ for individual men to reject this. it does not matter whether women "accept you" as an ally, it does not matter whether you think of yourself as an ally. what matters are your actions.
one of the most basic requirements of allyship is understanding that the people your group oppresses will likely be wary of or outright hostile to members of your group and accepting that this is a reasonable and expected reaction to their subjugation.
if your allyship (your amplification of women's voices, your fight for them and their rights) is determined by how they feel about you (if someone not liking you is enough for you abandon them) then you are not an ally.
women do not have the power to make you an ally or not, but we /can/ identify it: you are not being an ally right now.
If you don't want me to be an ally, and you tell me you hate me, then I'm not going to be your ally.
I do not help the people that hate me.
That's not going to stop me from helping the other women that do allow me to be an ally.