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[–] gerryflap@feddit.nl 9 points 2 days ago

This is like the moment when I got tested for autism. They asked "have you ever had a relationship?" and I was like "no I'm not attracted to anyone" and they just started writing furiously. Being LGBT+ definitely seems to score some points on the neurospicy test

[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 59 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] ByteJunk@lemmy.world 5 points 3 days ago (2 children)

No idea where this is from, but my man is brutal...

[–] Damage@feddit.it 5 points 3 days ago

IIRC it was a manga about a criminal henchman turned stay-at-home husband

[–] sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 51 points 3 days ago (1 children)

no bitches + disassociating + vitamin b deficiency + dumb af

[–] Not_Dav3@lemmy.world 16 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)
[–] sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 5 points 3 days ago (2 children)
[–] CheesyFox@lemmy.sdf.org 5 points 3 days ago

Haven't heard of her

[–] ByteJunk@lemmy.world 5 points 3 days ago

It's ok, glaucoma is known to be very inquisitive.

[–] Binzy_Boi@piefed.ca 44 points 3 days ago (4 children)

The doc diagnosing me with psychopathy after showing up to his office in socks and sandals.

[–] anton@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 days ago

Find a better doctor, the correct diagnosis is german.

[–] A_norny_mousse@feddit.org 9 points 3 days ago

If the socks are cool, socks with sandals are also cool. Fight me.

[–] tekeous@beehaw.org 2 points 3 days ago

LinusTechTips wants to know your location

[–] KernelTale@programming.dev 1 points 3 days ago

I love socks in sandals

[–] SARGE@startrek.website 13 points 3 days ago (3 children)

I'm probably overreacting, but if I saw that I'd call up the office, ask why they wrote that, and probably look for a new doctor.

In what way is how I dress relevant? Unless I'm in a superman outfit with frills sewn in, why is it so important to write down judgemental and opinionated comments about the way I dress?

[–] theneverfox@pawb.social 17 points 3 days ago

It could be a legit symptom. Missed buttons, clothes on backwards, mismatched shoes or socks, a dress with pants - all of that could indicate deeper issues where your brain is slipping gears. It's a real symptom, and I think those exact words appear in the DSM

Or this doctor was just a judgemental asshole who has no idea what self expression is. The entire profession is based around pretending to know what's going on, a lot of them are shockingly incompetent when you get past the jargon

[–] NoneOfUrBusiness@fedia.io 15 points 3 days ago (2 children)

In what way is how I dress relevant?

Your answer:

Psychotic symptoms

Could be that it was "bad" enough a doctor thought it could have something to do with the diagnosis.

[–] princessnorah@lemmy.blahaj.zone 26 points 3 days ago

I once had a psychiatrist write that I was wearing "gender neutral clothing" in the sentence after stating I was "currently undergoing gender re-assignment from male to female". I was wearing a pretty feminine sweater, skinny jeans and doc martens. It was hard not to see it as a dig at the fact I wasn't wearing a dress or skirt, which is something that's absolutely used to gatekeep trans women from transition related healthcare.

[–] prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Ehhh maybe. Sounds to me like remnants of boomer culture of somehow the way another person dresses is a personal affront to them.

[–] toynbee@lemmy.world 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

... What's wrong with a Superman outfit with frills sewn in?

I only ask because, uh, I definitely never wore that to an event and, uh, especially definitely never proudly drew someone's attention to it.

For sure that never happened.

[–] SARGE@startrek.website 2 points 3 days ago

Well, depending on where I saw one, I might not even give it a second glance beyond "what was that? oh it's a frilly superman outfit!"

for a doctor's appointment? A bit odd, but you do you.