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transcriptTweet by @9inofmalenia: (in all caps) went to the store with my mom and said I want the lesbian candle and she looked at me and went you have enough lesbian stuff already how about getting a girlfriend for once thats pretty lesbian to me

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[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 41 minutes ago
[–] MalReynolds@slrpnk.net 2 points 27 minutes ago

flexible mason's rule made of lead

Deep (toxic) cut, kudos.

[–] GalacticSushi@piefed.blahaj.zone 67 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

how about getting a girlfriend for once thats pretty lesbian to me

[–] Voroxpete@sh.itjust.works 35 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Deadass murdered her own kid. Stone cold.

[–] notabot@piefed.social 7 points 49 minutes ago

And in the middle of the store too! Absolutely savage behaviour.

[–] shittydwarf@sh.itjust.works 27 points 2 hours ago

That wound will never fully heal, she will carry it for the rest of her life

[–] Gullible@sh.itjust.works 24 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

“I need the candle to make things official, mom. I’ve slept with 47 women, but none of them knew I was a lesbian without the candle!”

[–] lime@feddit.nu 5 points 1 hour ago

gotta stop saying no homo

[–] NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 26 points 3 hours ago (3 children)
[–] morto@piefed.social 4 points 9 minutes ago

Consumerism disguised as supporting your community

[–] carotte@lemmy.blahaj.zone 36 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

i'm assuming something kinda like this

Photo of a scented candle in a jar. The jar has a sticker of a lesbian flag superimposed by the silhouette of a wolf and text. The text reads: Myth & Magic Lesbian Pride Mango Peach Salsa. The candle itself is made of three colors, from top to bottom: orange, white, and purple.

[–] terranoid@lemmy.cafe 12 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

Mango Peach Salsa pride

[–] WhoIzDisIz@lemmy.today 15 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Maybe it's just because I'm a crude, clueless older male, but I'm envisioning a candle that can be burnt from either end — much like a double-ended... uhm... adult toy.

[–] SarahValentine@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 2 hours ago

The candle is my life.