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[–] gandalf_der_12te@feddit.org 1 points 26 minutes ago* (last edited 24 minutes ago)

i can tell you that's not true at least for me personally

i have a strong aversion to all piercings of the skin, especially ear-rings. first of all it just feels wrong. it feels like societally-accepted socially-encouraged body-self-mutilation. in any sane universe, people would think that you're crazy if you intentionally drive a nail through your skin, because that's what it is.

other piercings are slightly less bad because i feel like people actually thought about it instead of just doing it out of social pressure so at least it's their own conscious choice. still don't like it though.

[–] oxideseven@lemmy.ca 8 points 2 hours ago

I love septum piercings, and piercings in general. And tattoos. And weird hair.

[–] FrChazzz@lemmus.org 14 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

Am I the only one low-key annoyed that the photo does not show a septum piercing (I understand it's called a "smiley" piercing--done on the frenulum of the upper lip)? It's Alysa Liu's signature look.

[–] noseatbelt@piefed.ca 1 points 9 minutes ago

Nah I was squinting at the picture trying to find it.

[–] ceenote@lemmy.world 37 points 4 hours ago (5 children)

Ha! I thought the punchline would be something like "they're an effective deterrent."

[–] missphant@lemmy.blahaj.zone 39 points 3 hours ago (1 children)
[–] trashcroissant@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

That rainbow hair looks cool af

[–] Viceversa@lemmy.world 6 points 2 hours ago

Unfortunately, not for very long

[–] xtr0n@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 hours ago

If I’m ever single again I may get one just to help filter out closet conservatives.

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[–] Arghblarg@lemmy.ca 42 points 5 hours ago (7 children)

I just find them unnattractive; generally not into piercings or tattoos. To each their own...

[–] fizzle@quokk.au 4 points 2 hours ago (2 children)

Same.

Although maybe "unnattractive" isn't a good fit because I do understand that it's not a woman's default objective to "be attractive" to me. It's more just that maybe I'm a bit weird about ears and noses. If you have something hanging out of your nose my lizard brain alerts me that it's probably a booger. My more sophisticated hominid brain is aware that it's not, but this creates a kind of unsolvable feedback loop that's unsolvable.

Yesterday I was interviewing a candidate for a job. I'm genuinely trying to listen and engage with this cacophony of booger not-booger booger not-booger going on.

[–] Arghblarg@lemmy.ca 6 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago) (1 children)

I didn't say it was anyone's objective to be attractive to me. And it isn't. I just have (as does everyone else) the agency to decide for myself what I find attractive or not.

Thank you for pointing out the possibly ambiguity of my response though, so I could clarify.

[–] four@lemmy.zip 1 points 6 minutes ago

Do you decide what you find attractive? Or just observe and notice? Could you decide that something is attractive for you?

[–] Viceversa@lemmy.world 3 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Although maybe "unnattractive" isn't a good fit because I do understand that it's not a woman's default objective to "be attractive" to me.

When you say that something is unattractive , it's your personal opinion which you are entitled to. It's fine. We are people, we are diverse.

[–] fizzle@quokk.au 2 points 56 minutes ago

Im not so sure about that. Of course its fine to not be attracted to different traits, thats not in question. The problem is what we say.

If someone says they find a phrase impolite, or that they find a meal bland, there's an implication that the thing has not met that person's expectations.

People dont sail around expressing their opinion that they find something unattractive for that very reason.

[–] PP_BOY_@lemmy.world 18 points 5 hours ago

Same, and it's not something I really care to shout from the roof because why does my opinion matter and I don't want to tell people what to do in the first place, but it's also something I can never say even in passing because of what group of people it puts me in

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[–] MBech@feddit.dk 15 points 4 hours ago (2 children)

I'm sorry what? You gotta be over 18 to get a septum piercing in USA? Why???

[–] ThePantser@sh.itjust.works 13 points 4 hours ago (4 children)

Infection liability, gotta be old enough to sign that you won't sue for infection or disfigurement.

[–] Chronographs@lemmy.zip 12 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

I think your parent can sign those for you though

[–] ThePantser@sh.itjust.works 5 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Parent can let you get anything if they let you. You mist be 18 to do it for yourself.

[–] Chronographs@lemmy.zip 3 points 4 hours ago (5 children)

Sure but it’s actually legal, a parent can’t legally buy you cigarettes or alcohol for example.

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[–] tpihkal@lemmy.world 10 points 4 hours ago

You can but you'd need to have a parent present to give permission. Or...you can be me in your teens and just do all your own piercings.

[–] expatriado@lemmy.world 6 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

not a fan of the booger piercing, but just a personal taste thing

[–] Malyca@lemmy.zip 6 points 3 hours ago

When my husband got his he said he could smell it healing and that's a no for me dawg. He removed it not long after.

[–] arctanthrope@lemmy.world 3 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

I feel the same when I scroll past comments on porn sites and see people complaining that the actress has tattoos. why does that ruin it for you so much, bud?

[–] Viceversa@lemmy.world 2 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

why does that ruin it for you so much, bud?

Because of personal taste? 🤷🏾‍♂️
And to be honest: some tattoos are poorly done.

[–] Thcdenton@lemmy.world 2 points 4 hours ago

You kidding me? Tons of kids in my highschool had septum piercings

[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 3 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Almost every girl whos ever shown interest in me had a septum piercing lol

[–] Thatuserguy@lemmy.world 6 points 4 hours ago (2 children)

Please tell me the secret to your success

[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 hour ago

I have no tattoos or piercings

[–] Viceversa@lemmy.world 2 points 2 hours ago

Be a piercer

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