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[–] ButteryMonkey@piefed.social 8 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

I ‘flirt’ because dudes assume thats what I'm doing when I'm just having a conversation, and panic when they treat it like flirting. Because it isn't, ever, I’m ace/aro, keep your dick in your pants; I just like human connection.

But I’m also a chick magnet and I can’t explain that away with basic human decency..? I guess I give off vibes? I mean ladies are 1,000,000 more appealing than men, but I still don't want to sex them (tried both, meh)

[–] DoomProphet@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 36 minutes ago

Have you tried not being attractive? /s

[–] zloubida@sh.itjust.works 1 points 13 minutes ago

The one time it worked I panicked so hard I'm now married. No flirting for me anymore… (it's probably better that way)

[–] DrSoap@lemmy.world 16 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

This is very relatable to me. I put on a lot of weight since the pandemic and its been so fun to flirt left and right and not be taken seriously, but every once in a while, someone likes big girls and bites. Panic.

[–] fartographer@lemmy.world 3 points 1 hour ago

I like being bitten too

[–] snausagesinablanket@lemmy.world 6 points 3 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Echinoderm@aussie.zone 10 points 3 hours ago (2 children)

!shirtsthatgohard@lemmy.world is the better option to link on lemmy, as it will keep people in their home instance.

[–] banause@feddit.org 1 points 1 hour ago

Plus there is a dedicated "cross post" feature on Lemmy.

[–] YoSoySnekBoi@kbin.earth 1 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Funnily, both links look/act identical to me and keep me in my home instance. Must be an mbin thing?

[–] ButteryMonkey@piefed.social 2 points 59 minutes ago (1 children)

If you use a mobile client thats probably the cause. On voyager they look the same to me as well.

The apps have been heavily developed to fix the instance interoperability quirks, but a lot of users are on web where the ! link works better.

If you are already on web version then idk. My info might be outdated.

[–] kuberoot@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 8 minutes ago

A web client is still a client that can do custom logic for clicking links or rewrite them when processing markdown. I don't know if popular web clients for either Lemmy or kbin do that, but they sure could!