Good thing I don't know how to flirt. So there is no reason to panic
this post was submitted on 13 Jun 2026
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I ‘flirt’ because dudes assume thats what I'm doing when I'm just having a conversation, and panic when they treat it like flirting. Because it isn't, ever, I’m ace/aro, keep your dick in your pants; I just like human connection.
But I’m also a chick magnet and I can’t explain that away with basic human decency..? I guess I give off vibes? I mean ladies are 1,000,000 more appealing than men, but I still don't want to sex them (tried both, meh)
"Ace" is the same as asexual?
Yea, sorry, ace/asexual and aro/aromantic or not into relationships that aren't platonic :)
I'm so sorry
Have you tried not being attractive? /s
I’m open to advice, but yes, I make no effort to be attractive. I’m clearly not a great judge, but I wouldn't fuck me ;)
The one time it worked I panicked so hard I'm now married. No flirting for me anymore… (it's probably better that way)
This is very relatable to me. I put on a lot of weight since the pandemic and its been so fun to flirt left and right and not be taken seriously, but every once in a while, someone likes big girls and bites. Panic.
I like being bitten too
Panic.
!shirtsthatgohard@lemmy.world is the better option to link on lemmy, as it will keep people in their home instance.
Plus there is a dedicated "cross post" feature on Lemmy.
Funnily, both links look/act identical to me and keep me in my home instance. Must be an mbin thing?
If you use a mobile client thats probably the cause. On voyager they look the same to me as well.
The apps have been heavily developed to fix the instance interoperability quirks, but a lot of users are on web where the ! link works better.
If you are already on web version then idk. My info might be outdated.
A web client is still a client that can do custom logic for clicking links or rewrite them when processing markdown. I don't know if popular web clients for either Lemmy or kbin do that, but they sure could!
Thats true, and all this stuff might just be outdated info :) its entirely possible the web clients have been adapted, and we just aren't aware of it because.. who knows everything?