> pretending to be a girl online so that i can get just a little attention from a human being for once
> talking to this guy, seems really sweet and we have a bunch of common interests
> mfw i actually start to really care about this guy
> he alludes to abandonment issues in his past
> ohno.jpg
> panic, tell him i have to go to bed
> try to go to bed but can't sleep from guilt
> can't bring myself to message him the truth that i am a girlpretender attention whore
> decide just blocking him is the least painful option for both of us
am i a bad person?
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Dare I say, fake and gay?
fake: anon has positive human interaction
gay: there are no girls on the internet
I bet everyone has pretended to be the opposite sex online. Maybe just for the giggles. But anyone who does that all the time, straight to hell.
or straight to therapy and hopefully a trans supportive community haha (not that it would excuse catfishing)
I try to not reveal my gender when speaking online. I don't fell it pertinent and it is nice to be able to act which ever role you chose to at the moment.
Bingo, bango! Whenever gender comes up, I flip a coin for what I'll answer. With rare exception, gender is meaningless in most places and is only being used by the other side as a red herring at best.
I never have on purpose, but in games i like to play as female characters. This was very useful in runescape back in the mid-2000s. Desperate guys would just asume you were a girl IRL and give you free shit asking to be your boyfriend.
I play guitar hero as Casey Lynch. I figure why play as who you look like when you can play as who you want to look at?
If I were going for accuracy to body type, I'd have to pick Lars Umlaut...
I got a load of grief for playing Fortnite as Penny, mainly from a family friend who kept banging on about "oh look, that's his type there!" or "like a buxom blonde, do you?"
I'm like motherfucker she's British and she's an engineer so I'm choosing to play as her because that's awesome as fuck, not because what's between the legs you fucking buffoon
If she'd started popping off about just playing Fortnite I'd have been "yeah fair enough mate, maybe I am a shithead" but the whole implied "you're a guy so you must fancy her if you're using a girl model" just really got on my tits... to use a poorly timed expression.
All my WoW alts were female because my then-girlfriend thought dudes were giving her all kinds of stuff because she was such a good healer. To prove a point I made a level 1 female character and undressed on the Orgrimmar mailbox, and made more gold than her main had in like 10 minutes. Sleeping on the couch was so worth it.
That's kind of a weird assumption. What qualifies as pretending? I don't think I have ever done that.
I'm a woman on Lemmy with a gender-neutral username, which means I don't have to try to "pretend" anything - people assume I'm a guy by default. Hell, it also happened back when I was on Reddit and used a female-coded username, which is even more confusing.
I can only imagine the gender performances these guys are putting on if they're able to easily convince others that they're women. Some people apparently take "there are no women on the internet" literally and can't seem to process when women appear online (in a non-porn context, at least. Which is really disheartening.) I've had people full-on argue with me that I couldn't really be female, because I once posted a picture that included my hand and apparently it "wasn't feminine enough." (That's what I get for keeping my nails short and disliking nail polish, I guess. Who knew even women's hands are expecting to conform to rigid gender expectations?)
imagine the gender performances these guys are putting on
Hello, fellow woman. Would you like to go to the bathroom together and have periods?
There can't be women online, that's impossible! Websites aren't pointlessly gendered!
Being a woman is gay, so you must be fake.
Conclusion, women on the internet are fake and gay.
Just having a chill conversation with someone online.
They tell me that they've had their heart broken in the past and they're very sensitive.
mfw I had no idea this was a date is this person completely bonkers
that's okay, I'll be nice to you!
This you? 🧐
I would absolutely say something like that while freaking out - even though this is online and I'm not in any danger
Because men don't have a strong enough social support system to have cathartic talks about their emotions. Because women aren't willing to disproportionately shoulder emotional labor anymore.
The patriarchy hurts everyone. Normalize discussing mental health among men. Don't let stigma stop you from telling your friends from how much they mean to you and how you're here if they need to talk.
Don't let stigma stop you
Fully recognizing that my initial reaction to the word "stigma" makes me part of the problem.
stigma love and compassion into this relationship lmao gottem
Too much crazy too fast. You gotta sit on that shit for a while, and then let it out slowly.
I got to "she has to go to bed" before I realised that this was all the same day.
Trauma dumping can be cathartic but perhaps maybe don't do it within the first two hours of having met someone. Also don't do it too much because your problems aren't there problems.
I guess wait until the afternoon or something then?
It was someone in China working for a game company trying to flirt with you to get you to sign up and play their game with them
Fake: There are no girls on the internet
Gay: OP was flirting with a man
Fake: OP was flirting with a raccoon
Gay: OP talks about feelings
Way better, bravo
Too obvious and on the nose.
Yeah I've let myself down here. Had a good streak going but I'll let someone else take the wheel for a while.
Unsolicited "good morning message" - is that what it's called now?
online
There's your problem
Sometimes you gotta remember that everyone has their own shit going on, and it's a bit self-centered to assume, every time, that it has to do with you. Especially when it comes to online dating.
homie needs to learn about talking to people in real life.
seems like you dodged a bullet?
Never have I ever met someone real-life online 🍻
That's because online people aren't real. All paid actors and bots (sometimes both).
Her Boyfriend found the message and blocked him