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[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 24 points 2 days ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

Dissociation is bitch, ain't it?

edit: word

[–] gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

actually that's not my experience at all. dissociation probably saved me from a whole lot of crap.

It can be helpful, but not when trying to work through mental issues that you can no longer ignore.

[–] MaskedNybbles@piefed.social 10 points 1 day ago

*Dissociation

[–] eestileib@sh.itjust.works 27 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Results may vary if you're not trans, but estrogen and spiro unlocked a lifetime of tears.

[–] Solely_a_Catt@programming.dev 17 points 2 days ago (2 children)

It's actually kinda scary, how much T blocked it for me. Went from years not crying to basically crying on a weekly basis

[–] gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

as a friend once said, life needs both sunshine and rain alike, it can't do with only either. (they went on to say that that's why we have two kidneys, one for each emotion. idk what to think of that). anyways, if you unlock emotions, you have to unlock all of them i think, not just the "joy" ones.

[–] eestileib@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 day ago

Yeah and then when you're done you can move on with your life instead of stewing over it forever?

[–] gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago (2 children)

that's because you need someone else to listen to your crying, otherwise there's no point in making any noise ... and listening means understanding here, so that's what you'd have to find first.

[–] gothmog@lemmy.today 1 points 1 day ago

So do all who see such times. But that is not for us to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us.

[–] N0tTr0xy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 day ago

I don’t think so. There were movies/series which made me cry and that was very soothing. I never start to cry from emotions.

How would one understand crying?

[–] Gormadt@slrpnk.net 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That awful feeling when all you want to do is let the tears out but you just can't.

It sounds strange that I have to be in the right place and with the right company (or lack thereof) to be able to let the tears fall, but I do. It depends in the kind of tears that are trying to flow though. If it's tears from my CPTSD the company and place matters a massive amount.

Sometimes music can help

"Cemetery Gates" by Pantera is often one that my brain craves when I need to let tears fall. It also helps if the music is loud and hard enough I feel it in my chest. "Lonely Day" by System of A Down is another one.

Sometimes I can let them fall by reminding myself that I'm safe where I'm at and that I'm far (in time and pace) from the traumatic shit.

Sometimes it's tears in the shower until the water runs cold.

One of the biggest things that helped me though in actually letting them fall was getting quitting drinking.

I've been sober now for 7 years.

It's the longest I've ever been sober.

[–] grranibal@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 day ago

Great comment, I just want to also suggest another song by System of a Down - “Soldier Side”. this one really makes my mind focus on itself and open up

[–] ObtuseDoorFrame@lemmy.zip 6 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Antidepressants did this to me. I had been on them since I was twelve, weened myself off them at 33. My emotional center has been gradually waking up ever since. Being able to cry when I need to is such a blessing.

[–] QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 day ago (2 children)

you weren't able to cry on antidepressants? I've maxed out the dosage on one antidepressant before switching to another and I've always been able to cry

[–] PumaStoleMyBluff@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

I'm mostly unable to cry on sertraline. It actually really fucked me up when I was trying to mourn the loss of a friend and couldn't. I finally cried once after I had an ulcerative colitis incident involving shitting myself in my car after what had otherwise been a really amazing day, I think it took that full spectrum drop in mood to allow it to happen.

[–] ObtuseDoorFrame@lemmy.zip 0 points 1 day ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

I think what happened to me had a lot to do with the age at which I started taking them. We now know that antidepressants shouldn't be prescribed to brains that haven't finished developing. So in most cases anyone under the age of 26.

Introducing antidepressants to the brain of a traumatized 12 year old basically neutered my emotional center and made me asexual. They also acted as puberty blockers as I didn't hit puberty until I was 17 and it happened when they switched my meds. I grew 16 inches in a year.

Giving antidepressants to a kid is child

abuse.

The person who downvoted me can fuck off forever

[–] bilouba@jlai.lu 2 points 1 day ago

Two years now and it's awful. Crying is good, I want to cry damnit! At least, your comment reassured me that they will come back

[–] Feddinat0r@feddit.org 12 points 2 days ago

Welcome to depression. I havent cried in about 10 years

[–] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 12 points 2 days ago

I'm pretty sure that's one result of depression

[–] CheesyFingers@piefed.social 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

When you meet that person, and feel them crying, reach out and let them know that it's okay to cry--even if you don't understand why they're sad. Encourage them to feel and express their emotions.

[–] phineas1134@reddthat.com 1 points 1 day ago

For me it's Gone Away by The Offspring or 3 a.m. by Matchbox 20 that can always bring the tears out.

[–] FreddiesLantern@leminal.space 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Always works for me: Watch a few movies, even if it's not suposed to be super emotional, there's bound to be some tear jerkin in there.

In fact, I usually cry with movies that are the polar opposite.

[–] N0tTr0xy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 day ago

Yes, that works. But that is a different thing. Although I’ve thought about this workaround since it would still give the relieve

But it’s weird when it never happens because of emotions