jtrek

That could be a factor. My perspective is limited to one of a man who doesn't date men. I had some nice (and one memorably, laughably bad*) dates with queer people on hinge, but it wasn't my primary experience.

While I've certainly been guilty of going on long shot dates, I feel like your process should filter out most people with that level of incompatibility.

I'm sure a lot of people picked up on my nerdery from my profile or initial messages and passed, and that's probably the right choice.

Though I do remember one bad date, we were talking about rom-coms and I mentioned dragon age inquisition and how I liked some of the romance plots in kt. She said something like she "thinks I live too much in those games". Disaster averted, and now I have a fun story.

I mean.. most people are kind of boring. It's not surprising that most profiles will thus be kind of boring.

The biggest factors I think are

• You live someplace shitty.
• Your photos are bad. This is different from you are bad.
• Your profile has red flags.
• You're writing unimpressive messages.

The apps suck and are a capitalist nightmare, but there's stuff you can do to improve the odds as a free user.

I just remembered some guy on lemmy that was like "i can't get any dates on these things!" and when pressed, he revealed that he'd talk to women on there for a couple weeks, and then was surprised when nothing happened. No shit. You gotta ask people out.

"dying of whiteness" is a fascinating book about whites voting against their own interests so those people don't get anything nice

not forget how easily Republicans fall in line

Their belief in hierarchy is core. Drives everything else. They're bad people.

I played paintball once and they had a "tag them out" rule. I snuck up on someone and tagged them. Pretty satisfying. Then I got shot with a paintball while standing there smug.

Apparently “that’s different and you know it”

This is conservative thought. Different rules for different people. In-groups to protect, out-groups to bind.

You can also see it when it's like "when I needed welfare I was down on my luck and needed help. When they needed it, they were lazy cheats"

It's poor empathy, poor reasoning, emotional dominance. They are, frankly, stupid

I can't laugh at this kind of thing anymore because it just makes me think about how so many people sincerely, aggressively, believe nonsense

I guess? But imagine if enough people took a couple minutes to post about how organization XYZ sucks, and (because the stock markets are irrational vibes based) that caused their stocks to drop a few points. That's the only thing they care about. I'm willing to put in a few minutes if it might emotionally harm an asshole.

Many of them are illogical, or have logic descending from extremely dubious axioms.

For example, "abortion is murder of an innocent baby" + "allow abortion for rape or incest" don't square well together, but see commonly seen together.

I should ask the local pizza shop owner about this. He was pretty anti zohran. He said it's because he grew up in a post Soviet country, and believed socialism would turn into poverty for all.

I was going to write "this depends on the ATS used" but I thought that was a safe assumption. Seems not so!