You and someone else got hung up on the specific example. I'm sure I could have come up with a better example where the raw and nice version conveyed the same amount of information.
jtrek
joined 6 months ago
I saw a comment the other day that was like "You can be right but you still get the wheelchair".
Also , if you want to murder someone, hit them with your car. Good odds you won't even be charged with a crime.
There are many ways to express any given truth, or facets of the truth.
"That dress makes you look fat"
"That dress doesn't flatter you"
We are being governed by the worst among us
I don't agree a "maybe" is a "MASSIVE" assumption. Maybe they're telling the truth. But maybe they're wrong.
I didn't make assumptions about your relationships. Please read more carefully.
It's hard not to draw uncharitable conclusions when people you considered friends don't reach out.
They may be struggling, but that's an explanation not an excuse. The sadness experienced by the person who never gets called, never gets invited, and feels forgotten, is real.
You think about what they do spend time on. Who they do call. It invites comparison. Why did they invite them but not me? Do they not like me? Was it something I said? It's impossible to know. They might not know themselves.
I follow a guideline of "follow their behavior, and if you have extra emotional energy then model the behavior you want to see". If they reach out sometimes, I'll reach out sometimes. If they don't, I don't, until I feel like I have the extra energy to risk them blowing me off or whatever.
How do they feel about it? Are you sure? How do you know?
In America, we resolve our political differences at the ballot box,
Do we though?
Without doing any research, I feel like I hear about fewer hate crimes targeting trans men than trans women? I'd guess because our society is obsessive with policing women's bodies. A guy with no beard is whatever, but a woman with some fuzz or stubble is a crime.
(Not to say that trans men don't have their own struggles)
I hate the AI thing in confluence. Stop asking me to improve writing or summarize. I know how to read and write.