I got a buddy who texts me "Give me a call when you get a chance"

Always allows me to finish up my work and call them when the time suits me.

Meanwhile, coworkers just call me a minute before I'm supposed to go into a meeting and expect to have my attention for a half hour. It's on the calendar you dipshit.

Indeed, but only with a rotary dial.

I downvote cause I feel concerned about this.

What do you fear?

That you're not up to the task?

That you'll dissapoint your peers?

Pick up that phone and face your fears

For you will never miss

the paths you failed on

but the ones you never dared to tread.

In what world do you live that time sensitivity is never a thing? Also it's just a helluva lot easier sometimes to talk for one minute instead of write for 10 and still get the wrong tone.

Yes why does nobody use voicemails? I never get it. Same number calls me 3x over the course of a week - brother if you can't even leave a message for me to call you back or pick up the next time it can't be that important.

Nowadays I use call screening on every call unless I know the person. If they say their name and what they want, it shows on my screen and I pick up if I'm interested. But most don't do that and hang up as soon as the voice starts. Eh, write me an email then, I'm not gonna respond if you can't even say your name.

You might consider altering your voicemail recording to say that if you don't have the number saved, a voicemail is required for a call back.

Mine is, "Due to a dramatic increase in scam callers, I don't answer calls from numbers I don't recognize. If this is a legitimate call, leave a message or send me a text and I'll get back to you."

What is that saying, 'lack of planning on your part doesn't constitute an emergency on my part' or something.

My friends know that they only call me if their house is actively on fire, they are being robbed at gunpoint, or they just won the lottery and want to split the winnings. Family also includes lunch/dinner plans. Only exception is when we have planned a call for a date and time, otherwise you're greeting my voicemail. Landlines is the exact same situation. I might be taking a shower, asleep, taking a dump, getting freaky with a friend; it doesn't matter. Leave a text message and I'll get back as soon as I'm done crying from taco tuesday, or finishing waking up the neighbors with moans and screams, or whatever else.

Email is 'sometime today' communication, and gets handled at the beginning or end of the day, or whenever I'm on the can. Anyone expecting a rapid response via email is a proper dunce.

You probably didn't need an immediate answer, but you wanted one. You also pressured me into making a quick decision based on 2 paragraphs of new information you just dumped on me, expecting me to not only remember all of it, but immediately understand and integrate it into my decision making process.

I'll probably remember half of your info dump at best and the likelihood of you getting the answer you were hoping for just went down hard because I feel slighted by your ambush and because I don't feel informed enough to give you a "yes".
If I did say "yes" we might be in bigger trouble though, since I likely misunderstood or forgot something.

Put it in writing and make both our lives easier.
You can still call if I didn't reply after 10 minutes.
You can even include your deadline in the message if you have one.

weird I'm an elder millennial and you just sound unprepared. do I need to hold your hand? why can't you find the information you need yourself with the resources everyone else uses? why are you always in this state on immediacy? why is your failing someone else's fault because they didn't answer "immediately"? why do you sound like my abusive father? it's almost like you don't think ahead and blame others for your shortcomings. I have a shit memory and ADHD and I don't need to "get someone on the horn".

git gud n00b

what sort of friendships do you have where you're routinely running into extremely time sensitive important decisions?

sounds like you just plan poorly tbh

if this is about work, then same goes. phone calls are undocumented and I'm not gonna give you any proper answer via phone on the spot unless it's a very simple yes/no

Most of the time you call someone they don’t answer. Texts will almost always get a response

Aww c'mon, what's the worst that could happen?! He gets bit by a camel? Man dies of camel bite in Ahmedabad ... oh wait

He just wants to know what day it is

You think the person taking a pic deliberately lured the donkey/camel in there?

For a while I kept getting a phone call around like 8am while I was at work id just let it ring because it was so bizarre. Finally one time I decided to just one word text back saying they had the wrong number at like around 4am and finally got a response saying it was some uncle my mom had given my number to for him to get in contact with her for some reason

if somebody calls me and I have their number saved in my phone: 50/50 if I pick up, depending on how social vs anxious I'm feeling.

if somebody calls me and I don't have their number saved in my phone: block, forget, move on.